Learning to let go

I did something bad today. Not bad in the sense of actually evil, but I still shouldn’t have done it. I let myself remember the last good time I had with the friend who I ‘broke up with’. I know this is stupid, but they meant so much to me and there were so many good times before everything went wrong.

I’m trying to stop loving them. And stop missing them. I don’t want to do this the healthy way, and I know that I shouldn’t try to purge them out of my life but the way I feel… I don’t know what else to do.

I’m sorry that this blog is starting on such a negative note. I promise, I won’t always be this way.

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6 Comments

  • Jane

    May 28, 2021 at 4:53 am

    I felt this way about someone who essentially used me and then dumped me. I cried for a whole month, and then…about last week, I realized how bad/unhealthy she was for me.

    Wanting to hold on to the people who hurt me is a trauma response. I’m learning to just need myself, because I’m the only life partner I’ll have my entire life. I do hope to have someone to spend it with, but I also realize the importance of self-love.

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    • Meep

      May 28, 2021 at 5:28 am

      I’m so, so sorry that happened to you! It’s so hard, someone comes along and dumps all this negativity into your life but it’s so hard to let go of them. I’m glad you’re finding your way, I’m so proud of you! Maybe I can take a page out of your book.

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  • Kadie

    June 2, 2021 at 10:20 am

    This is something that is always really hard to do and it’s normal to question whether it is right or wrong, good or bad, sometimes regardless it’s necessary to do. Doesn’t make it any easier though. Hopefully, you can work through it and maybe realize it’s sometimes for the best.

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